S3 E139 Common Sex Advice That’s Killing Fertility—What to Do Instead to Get Pregnant Faster

Is the way you're timing sex actually sabotaging your chances of getting pregnant?

If you’ve been told to wait for your LH peak or cram in sex every single day, you could be unknowingly hurting your fertility. In this episode, Dr. Katie Wood breaks down why both too much and too little sex can backfire—and how to reset intimacy so it's not just timed, but truly supportive for conception.

In this episode, you'll...

– Learn the ideal sex frequency during your fertile window to boost conception chances

– Discover how stress, performance pressure, and "fertility sex burnout" can impact hormone balance and sperm quality

– Get practical ways to reduce tension, reconnect with your partner, and bring joy back into intimacy while trying to conceive

Hit play to discover the fertility sweet spot for sex frequency—and how to make conception feel more aligned and less like a chore.

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Understanding the Dynamics of Frequency and Fertility

One of the potential saboteurs of fertility is how often you are engaging in intimacy. Both too much and too little can negatively impact your chances of conception. Repeated advice may urge you to meticulously track ovulation and hit the peak fertile window perfectly. While timing is crucial, the frequency of sex plays a significant role in fertility success.

The Impact of Over or Under Frequency

Over the years, couples have been told different strategies, such as having sex daily throughout the cycle or every day during the fertile window. However, these tactics may not be ideal. Engaging too frequently can lead to stress and reduce sperm count and quality, especially if male factor infertility is a concern. On the flip side, too little intimacy, such as only during the peak LH surge, might mean you are missing optimum windows for conception.

Finding the Middle Ground

What’s the best strategy? Aim for intimacy every other day during the five to six days leading up to ovulation as well as on the day of ovulation itself. This approach maximizes the chances of sperm being present during ovulation, increasing the odds of conception. It's about finding a balance that allows intimacy to happen naturally and joyfully rather than feeling like a chore.

The Emotional Impact of Trying to Conceive

The journey can become emotionally taxing if intimacy feels like a scheduled task rather than a connection. Over time, trying for a baby can take a toll not only on the body but also on relationships. The spontaneity and fun might be replaced by stress and pressure, which can diminish the joyful experiences meant to bring you closer.

Reconnecting and Reducing Stress

How can you start to enjoy intimacy again? Shift the focus from ‘have to’ to ‘want to’. Regular and relaxed intimacy can promote fertile conditions more than strictly timed, stress-filled encounters. Communication and spending quality time with each other outside the bedroom can rekindle your connection and reduce stress.

Conclusion: Building the Family of Your Dreams

In summary, while timing is important, so is the frequency. Aim for balance, maintaining intimacy about every other day during the fertile window. Remember to cultivate and cherish the relationship you have with your partner, turning stress into connection while nurturing your fertility journey.

Take a deep breath and allow yourself to enjoy this journey. Your future child is worth every joyful and loving moment you create with your partner. If you feel intimacy is becoming another item on your fertility to-do list, know that it’s okay to relax and refresh your approach to connection.

A Quick Note on Fertility Support

If you're eager to understand more about why conception has been challenging, consider taking the Ultimate Fertility Blueprint quiz, linked above. It can provide insights into your fertility capacity and highlight areas to address for improved chances. Recent research and professional advice are invaluable, but always consult with your healthcare provider before making any significant changes to your approach.

Enjoy this journey, cherish the moments, and remember why you and your partner embarked on it in the first place. The family of your dreams awaits.

Finally Get Pregnant Naturally is your go-to TTC podcast for holistic fertility support to help you get pregnant naturally by addressing the root cause of unexplained infertility, secondary infertility, and recurrent miscarriage. Hosted by Dr. Katie Wood, a pharmacist and holistic fertility practitioner, this show offers natural fertility solutions for those on a fertility journey struggling to conceive, navigating miscarriage, or dealing with endometriosis, PCOS, low sperm count, or failed IUI or failed IVF. Whether you're trying to conceive, increase egg quality, optimizing sperm health, or healing after a miscarriage, each episode delivers practical guidance to support your fertility journey. Learn how to improve fertility, balance hormones, regulate your fertile window, and conceive naturally through root cause healing, emotional wellness, and mind-body tools—because true fertility starts from within.

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